Struggling to get going in the morning? Feel like it’s a triumph if you’re had a shower today? Lost your mojo post baby? Not feeling good about yourself?
It can be hard when you become a parent, because it was often the things you did, that gave you your sense of identity, esteem and achievement. Your identity was based on what you did, e.g. had a career, earned money, worked out at the gym. Parenthood is a really powerful transition because it can cause an identity crisis,where you begin to question whether what you do defines you.
In fact, it can be an opportunity for you to create a deeper sense of who you are, which is not based on how you look, what you do, how much you earn, or the things you do each day. When your self-esteem and self-confidence are based on inner fulfilment and satisfaction, rather than living up to external expectations, you are no longer riding the emotional rollercoaster each day.
Here are my 5 Steps to Get Back Your Mojo:
1. Acknowledge Yourself – take time each day to give yourself praise and acknowledgement for all the little things you do, say and think that make a positive difference to yourself and others.
2. Drop the Should’s – telling yourself what you should be doing is a form of judgement and criticism and doesn’t feel good. Focus on what you want to do and how you want to feel, rather than on what your inner critic says.
3. Get in the Flow – any activity in which you lose awareness of time because you are so engrossed is a good thing. Spend more time in flow and you will start to feel light and buoyant.
4. Live Your Values – we can get bogged down when we are not in alignment with our values. What matters most to you? Focus most of your attention there. You will feel alive and revitalised when you nurture your priorities.
5. Connect with Your Tribe – staying connected with the people who love and respect you is really important. It is very freeing to just be yourself with no bells or whistles. This support network will sustain you during the more challenging moments of parenthood.
If you need further support, then please contact me to book a session where I can support either you as an individual or through couples counselling. Getting in early and learning to work as a team can really make a positive difference to your relationship.