It all got too much for the father-to-be (for a variety of reasons) and he left before the baby was born. You’ve gone through the birth and have now come out the other side with a beautiful baby but no support, and you’re feeling devastated that your baby’s father has gone and your relationship is over. For some women, this could be a blessing in disguise, and that’s okay. For many women, him leaving at this sensitive time of your life, while you’re lying there with a dependant newborn in your arms, is an overwhelming and confronting experience. You’re consumed by loneliness yet you’re trying to keep it together for the sake of your new baby. Also, many people will ask you about the father as they assume he’s around, so you find you have to keep explaining it or shut down the conversation. Either way, it’s so upsetting and so hard to deal with, you may feel it’s easier to avoid engaging with people and having to go through the whole thing again. However, the reality is that there will almost always be some connection between you and the father where your child is concerned. So even though it may feel as if you have gone from two to three and back to two again, you will actually still be three but in a different form. What you need to do is find ways to maintain the relationship for the sake of your child. Let’s talk before it breaks.