BIRTH EXPERIENCE VS. EXPECTATIONS

Congratulations, you’ve had the baby! But while you have got through the first stage of becoming a parent there are many things about the birth experience that you might be upset or disappointed about, and these could be affecting your relationship or preventing you from moving forward. One or both of you are experiencing one or more of the following:

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You had it all planned, down to the music, the mood, what your partner would be doing, why no doctors would be needed and how calm you’d be, pushing that baby out as if you were a natural earth mother … DIDN’T HAPPEN!! Turns out you didn’t even come close to your original birth plan and now you feel all sorts of stuff that you’d rather not say because it’s not what you think you ‘should’ be feeling, thinking or experiencing. You are now the parent of a newborn, and everyone’s telling you how lucky you are and how grateful you should be, yet that doesn’t change the loss of control you’ve experienced and the loss of the dream you had of how you wanted to give birth. You may even have started to personalise it so that it’s become something to do with you – perhaps you feel a ‘failure’ because you didn’t perform the role you ‘should’ have done as a mother. Emotions such as grief and intense anger may be interfering with your relationship, and if these are not dealt with promptly they could become a pre-cursor to post-natal depression. It’s time to reach out for help now. Let’s talk before it breaks.

For support contact Ginny

0412 88 2345