Long term relationships can easily fall into predictable routines. Between work, family, and everyday responsibilities, it’s common for couples to feel like they’re going through the motions without the same excitement or curiosity that sparked the relationship in the first place. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. The good news is that you can absolutely bring back the excitement!
Revisit the Beginning
A great way to reconnect emotionally is to revisit meaningful places from your early relationship. This could be the park where you had your first date, the place where you got engaged, or even just a favourite café. Recalling those moments brings back the emotions and energy you felt when you first met. You don’t have to relive the past, but revisiting old memories helps you rediscover what made you fall in love in the first place.
Spend Intentional Time Apart
It may sound counterintuitive, but one of the most powerful ways to reignite connection is by spending time apart. Over time, couples often spend so much time together that they forget how to miss each other. A little space, whether it’s an evening out with friends or a solo activity can help you both reconnect with your own individual selves. When you come back together, it’s with fresh eyes and appreciation for each other.
Keep Date Nights Alive
Life can get busy, and it’s easy to stop making time for each other, but date nights aren’t just for newly dating couples, they’re vital for long term relationships too. Make date nights a regular part of your routine. Take turns planning regular dates, try new activities, and if time is tight, even a relaxed evening at home can reignite the spark. If you’re stuck for ideas, consider a “date night jar” where you each contribute date suggestions, ensuring something fresh each time.
Flirt Like You Used To
Flirting is an essential part of any relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together. It reminds both partners that they’re still exciting and desirable. Flirting releases endorphins, which help reduce stress and increase relationship satisfaction. A playful comment, a lingering kiss, or a cheeky text can help bring back that sense of intrigue and emotional connection. It’s about having fun and keeping the desire alive, not just when it’s time for sex, but as part of your everyday interactions.
Try Something New Together
Novelty is a great way to shake things up and bring excitement back. Doing something you’ve never tried before, whether it’s taking a dance class, cooking a new recipe, or exploring a neighbourhood you’ve never visited stimulates the brain and fosters a deeper connection. Shared new experiences create memories and encourage bonding, so take advantage of the many activities available in your city or nearby areas to inject some adventure into your routine.
Bring Back Romantic Gestures
Over time, it’s easy to take your partner for granted, but small romantic gestures go a long way in keeping the love alive. Pay attention to your partner’s love language, whether its words of affirmation, acts of service, or physical touch and expressing your affection in ways that resonate with them. A heartfelt note, a thoughtful surprise, or simply taking time to share a quiet moment, these acts of love help build emotional intimacy and prevent the relationship from feeling stagnant.
Rediscovering Each Other
Rebuilding connection in a long term relationship doesn’t require drastic changes, just intentional actions. Whether it’s revisiting shared memories, spending time apart, or adding novelty to your routine, these small steps can help you rediscover the spark you once had.
There’s always something new to explore together, from the vibrant city life to the serene natural spots nearby, the key is to approach your relationship with curiosity, intention, and a sense of playfulness.
From 2 to 3 offers relationship counselling that can help guide you through shifting out of routine and back into a place of connection, curiosity, and growth.
