Many people wonder how much sex they should be having. Some of them are questioning how much sex is enough for a married couple, the other ones are thinking whether they are “normal” compared to other people.
If some of these questions are bothering you, don’t worry. These are common concerns that couples are sharing with their therapists. People are looking for answers to these questions because they want to know whether their relationship is healthy. Also, they want to be sure that they are enough to their partner and if he/she is enough for them.
They are in fear that their relationship might be in jeopardy of “too little” or “too much” sex, and in this article we will try to give the answer about how much sex do couples actually need.
Once A Week Is a Common Baseline
The frequency of sex is related to happiness. However, the studies show that people who are having sex more than once a week are not happier than the one who is having sex weekly. Keep in mind that you and your partner shouldn’t rely on an average as a metric for their own relationship.
Having sex once a week might be ideal according to the research data, however, the real ideal is what works for you and your partner. If you are happy together than you are probably having the right amount of sex for you. In case you are not, you can always count on help from qualified couples and marriage therapists who will work closely with you and your partner to help you overcome all problems and challenges.
What If One Partner Wants More Sex Than The Other?
When one of the partners has low sexual desire, that can affect self-esteem and the ego of the other one. One more thing that is common to many couples is that they have excellent communication when it comes to finances, raising kids and other activities, but they have poor “intimate communication”.
This means that they do not speak about their sex life if they are feeling unsatisfied and that is wrong, The couples should be able to speak freely and honestly because that is the only way to learn to be sexually assertive and establish a healthy relationship. If you feel insecure speaking with your partner about sex issues, maybe you should try counselling guided by professional couples and marriage therapist. They will provide a safe environment where you can both speak about your concerns without worrying that the other one will judge you or interrupt you.
How To Improve Your Sex Life?
For couples whose sex life is challenged, there are several steps they can take to make thing better. Most of those sexual issues can be resolved outside the bedroom because both physical and emotional intimacy is equally important for you as a couple.
No matter if you need to spend some time alone, kind acts or words, surprise gifts or something else, don’t forget to nurture those small signs of love and attention. Some therapists even suggest things like scheduling sex or going on a trip away from the family environment.
When You Should Visit an Expert?
In case that you have already tried all the tips, we have mentioned in this article and there are still some issues regarding the intimacy in your relationship that concerns you, you should try one-on-one dialogue with your partner. If you fail to establish good communication, help from third-party persons such as Ginny Lindsay, a professional couples and marriage therapist, might be beneficial.
Don’t wait until things become worse, and contact From 2 to 3 counselling today!