While couples counselling can be one of the most valuable tools to strengthen a relationship, it also suffers from many misconceptions. From misconstrued notions about its purpose to misunderstandings about the process itself, many people find it challenging to separate fact from fiction – and this can prevent couples from seeking the help they need. This article demystifies some of the common myths and misunderstandings that deter couples from seeking couples counselling
‘Counselling Means Our Relationship is a Failure’
First on the list is the widely held belief that counselling signifies a relationship ‘on the rocks’. This misconception is not only damaging but can be deeply discouraging. The reality is that couples counselling is not an admission of defeat; rather, it’s a proactive and courageous step to foster understanding and communication, and to deepen a couple’s bond. It signifies that a couple values their relationship so much that they’re willing to put in the effort to ensure its longevity.
‘Couples Counselling Is Just for Married Couples’
Another prevailing belief is that couples counselling is reserved for those with rings on their fingers. This could not be further from the truth. While it’s true that many married couples attend counselling, it’s not an exclusive club. Couples counselling is for any form of intimate relationship – dating couples, cohabitating couples, and even close friendships or partnerships can benefit immensely from these sessions. Remember, it’s about nurturing relationships, not marital statuses.
‘Couples Counselling Is Only for Serious Issues’
Do you imagine couples counselling as a last-resort solution for teetering-on-the-brink relationships? If so, you’re not alone. This image, however, is a gross exaggeration. While counselling can undoubtedly help couples in crisis, it’s not meant for crisis management alone. Couples with experiencing minor misunderstandings, anticipating or going through changing life circumstances, or those with a desire to enhance their relationship can also benefit from counselling. These sessions are about facilitating conversations and creating mutual understanding — not just dousing fires.
‘The Therapist Always Takes Sides!’
One major deterrent for many couples is the fear that the therapist will take sides. This fear stems from a lack of understanding about the therapist’s role. Therapists are trained to remain neutral and to help couples communicate better, not pass judgement or choose sides. Our first and foremost task is to facilitate an environment of trust and respect and to create a safe space for both partners to share their thoughts and feelings.
‘I’ll Have To Share Everything And I Don’t Want To’
While we encourage you to be totally open and honest in therapy, you’re not under oath to divulge everything. Remember, couples counselling is not a confessional booth. Some issues might take more time and trust before you feel comfortable sharing them. Experienced therapists understand the requirement for trust-building and will respect your process and your pace.
At From 2 to 3, we aim to help individuals and couples navigate life’s numerous relational challenges, irrespective of their relationship status or the nature of their dilemmas. We believe in nurturing relationships and cultivating healthy communication patterns. Ready to start your journey of understanding and growth? We’re just a call away.
