At our core, all human beings are animals with basic needs, but we are also shaped by our own thoughts, beliefs, values, experiences, and expectations, among other influences. Then, when we choose a partner, we sometimes struggle to find common ground and develop a relationship that makes both partners feel safe, secure and fulfilled. The secret lies not in thoughts of right or wrong but in developing an understanding of the other and learning how to be with each other so that you can get what you need, as an individual and as part of a couple, and allow your love to thrive.