Infidelity is not a taboo anymore, and many couples have faced this problem. It is hard to define only one thing that makes one cheat, but at some point, it has to do something with the relationship you are involved in.
Some people cheat because they need sexual variety, the other ones simply fell out of love, but one thing is for sure – cheating is not the solution to these problems, although it happens all the time. Since this is one of the most common problems couples are dealing with, we will share some tips about how you can prevent yourself and your partner from cheating.
- Be Honest to Each Other
The best way to prevent cheating is to be open to each other and to create a relationship in which you can tell each other anything and everything. If your partner feels safe to share his or her deepest feelings and concerns with you, it will help you understand each other better. Trust is the foundation of every strong and healthy relationship.
- Don’t Let Jealousy Step In Between You and Your Partner
Maybe you find yourself being jealous because your partner is not paying as much attention to you as he used to, but you shouldn’t let it get the best of you. If you start “attacking” your partner constantly because of the jealousy you feel, that will only push them further away. It is natural to feel this way, but you shouldn’t let yourself focus on this feeling. Instead, try focusing on the love and other positive reasons that are holding you together.
- Prioritize Each Other
People nowadays usually spend most of their free time on social media, or in front of the computer. If this is something you and your partner usually do, try realigning your priorities. You should focus on each other more because that is the only way to ensure that you will be able to see and meet each other’s needs.
- Get Physical
Intimacy is a very important part of every relationship. Lack of sexual desire is one of the most common reasons why people cheat. Even if your partner doesn’t seem like they are in the mood for sex, don’t be afraid to initiate it. If there is still something missing in your bedroom, don’t be afraid to try new things and be open to experimentation.
- Let Your Partner Have Time For Himself/Herself
Some people cheat because they feel trapped in the relationship, and they seek an escape. The infidelity makes them feel free, and because of that, it is very important to let your partner spend some time without you, with their friends, pursuing hobbies or other. This will prevent him/her from feeling hemmed in the relationship.
- Don’t Become Too Controlling
Many people are not aware of this, but when we get in the relationship, we try to control our partner to do what feels the best for us. Overcontrolling leads to blaming, criticizing, complaining and other destructive habits that will certainly make your partner run away from you, seeking someone who understands their needs better.
Don’t Be Afraid to Get Counselling
Couples therapy isn’t something that helps only married couples and troubled relationships. It can help you communicate better and prevent a major issue from escalating. Even if you haven’t cheated on your partner (yet), but you can relate with some of the examples listed above, it is time to contact the experienced therapist.
Ginny Lindsay, the premier therapist at From 2 to 3 couples counselling, will help you detect the source of the problem and solve it. Schedule occasional or regular counselling and prevent cheating and other issues from happening.