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As a relationship and couples counsellor, I hear lots of opinions about relationship counselling and most of them are untrue! These opinions are usually informed by depictions of counselling and therapy shown in film or television, or bad news stories told when a...

I often despair that couples counselling or relationship counselling is only considered when it’s too late to save your marriage. Healthy relationships are the most significant predictor of happiness and life satisfaction, yet are often neglected or taken for granted....

Having a child with your partner is an exciting time in your life but it can also be a very challenging period. Research indicates that marital satisfaction declines during the first 2 years of your child’s life, so if you are feeling unhappy in your relationship you...

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi A very common pattern that I see couples discuss in my counselling room, is the need for one or sometimes both partners to be right. It’s often over something very minor to...

I often have couples come to my office for counselling, where one or both of them feel unsupported by their partner. When I probe a little more into the issue, I sometimes find that it is their expectations of their partner, rather than the support per se, that is...

For many people, Valentine’s Day may seem like a marketing exercise designed to sell flowers and cards. You may feel cynical about it or that romance shouldn’t just happen on one day. However Valentine’s Day can be an excellent way to re-establish some magic and...

As we come to the end of January I am feeling recharged and refreshed. I have been thinking about how we go through cycles in our lives and in our relationships. My numerology friends tell me that 2017 is the start of a new 9 year cycle, so it’s all about starting...

While you are rushing around during the holidays at social events, how much time and attention are you giving to your relationship? In my individual and couples counselling practice, I have often have clients desperate to book in for an appointment during the...

Welcome to the New Year! It’s natural to take stock of where we are at, and set goals for the future. This is an important process not just for you as an individual but also for your and your partner. One of the key factors that predicts relationship success and...

It can be hard not to get caught up in all the Christmas craziness at this time of year and make it all about creating a lot of added stress for yourself. While it can be an exciting time with a new baby or small children, I have seen many new parents stretch...