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Do You Always Need to Be Right?
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi A very common pattern that I see couples discuss in my counselling room, is the need for one or sometimes both partners to be right. It’s often over something very minor to...
How Supportive is Your Inner Relationship?
I often have couples come to my office for counselling, where one or both of them feel unsupported by their partner. When I probe a little more into the issue, I sometimes find that it is their expectations of their partner, rather than the support per se, that is...
Keep Your Love Alive This Valentine’s Day
For many people, Valentine’s Day may seem like a marketing exercise designed to sell flowers and cards. You may feel cynical about it or that romance shouldn’t just happen on one day. However Valentine’s Day can be an excellent way to re-establish some magic and...
It’s Never Too Late for a New Beginning
As we come to the end of January I am feeling recharged and refreshed. I have been thinking about how we go through cycles in our lives and in our relationships. My numerology friends tell me that 2017 is the start of a new 9 year cycle, so it’s all about starting...
Why So Many Relationships Break Up Over The Holidays
While you are rushing around during the holidays at social events, how much time and attention are you giving to your relationship? In my individual and couples counselling practice, I have often have clients desperate to book in for an appointment during the...
How to Set Goals That Improve Your Relationship
Welcome to the New Year! It’s natural to take stock of where we are at, and set goals for the future. This is an important process not just for you as an individual but also for your and your partner. One of the key factors that predicts relationship success and...
Don’t Be A Martyr This Christmas
It can be hard not to get caught up in all the Christmas craziness at this time of year and make it all about creating a lot of added stress for yourself. While it can be an exciting time with a new baby or small children, I have seen many new parents stretch...
Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too!
You may have heard about post-natal depression in women, but did you know that new fathers also experience depression? It is estimated that 1 in 10 new dads struggle with depression following the birth of their baby. Anxiety is thought to be as common and many men...
Is It Time to Lighten Up?
With the longer days, I am enjoying all the light that pours into my office and home right through into the early evening. At this time of year, I find many of the couples I work with in counselling are stressed and serious. It made me think about how we might all...
It’s Not About The Money
Seven out of ten Australian couples report that money causes tension in their relationships, with disagreement over finances being a stronger predictor of divorce than other commonly cited causes of marital conflict. As a couples counsellor and relationship therapist,...
Do You Always Need to Be Right?
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi A very common pattern that I see couples discuss in my counselling room, is the need for one or sometimes both partners to be right. It’s often over something very minor to...
How Supportive is Your Inner Relationship?
I often have couples come to my office for counselling, where one or both of them feel unsupported by their partner. When I probe a little more into the issue, I sometimes find that it is their expectations of their partner, rather than the support per se, that is...
Keep Your Love Alive This Valentine’s Day
For many people, Valentine’s Day may seem like a marketing exercise designed to sell flowers and cards. You may feel cynical about it or that romance shouldn’t just happen on one day. However Valentine’s Day can be an excellent way to re-establish some magic and...
It’s Never Too Late for a New Beginning
As we come to the end of January I am feeling recharged and refreshed. I have been thinking about how we go through cycles in our lives and in our relationships. My numerology friends tell me that 2017 is the start of a new 9 year cycle, so it’s all about starting...
Why So Many Relationships Break Up Over The Holidays
While you are rushing around during the holidays at social events, how much time and attention are you giving to your relationship? In my individual and couples counselling practice, I have often have clients desperate to book in for an appointment during the...
How to Set Goals That Improve Your Relationship
Welcome to the New Year! It’s natural to take stock of where we are at, and set goals for the future. This is an important process not just for you as an individual but also for your and your partner. One of the key factors that predicts relationship success and...
Don’t Be A Martyr This Christmas
It can be hard not to get caught up in all the Christmas craziness at this time of year and make it all about creating a lot of added stress for yourself. While it can be an exciting time with a new baby or small children, I have seen many new parents stretch...
Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too!
You may have heard about post-natal depression in women, but did you know that new fathers also experience depression? It is estimated that 1 in 10 new dads struggle with depression following the birth of their baby. Anxiety is thought to be as common and many men...
Is It Time to Lighten Up?
With the longer days, I am enjoying all the light that pours into my office and home right through into the early evening. At this time of year, I find many of the couples I work with in counselling are stressed and serious. It made me think about how we might all...
It’s Not About The Money
Seven out of ten Australian couples report that money causes tension in their relationships, with disagreement over finances being a stronger predictor of divorce than other commonly cited causes of marital conflict. As a couples counsellor and relationship therapist,...